Destressing Fear

 Today, I want to examine the idea of destressing fear because recently I went onto a social media platform (which I rarely do these days) and I noticed a very good friend of mine losing it.

Literally losing it on his posts like a teenage girl throwing a tantrum because she isn't getting her way. 

Okay, okay, I understand that what I just wrote is very unkind but, think about it! A grown man on social media saying things like a thirteen year old girl and not even knowing it.

Two men, I love very much, and I had a rich conversation last night that pertains to this.

One was explaining to me, when people have bad breath everyone in the room knows it except the person with bad breath. I'm paraphrasing of course but, what he is saying is sometimes people lack self-awareness.

This can happen to anyone. More often for some than others yet, it's pretty normal.

The other was saying that we create our own reality. I'm paraphrasing again, still, very true.

When I was a young EMT (Emergency Medical Technician), about twenty six years ago, I had two very bad 911 calls in very close time proximity. These calls involved deaths of children. Immediately afterwards, I was behaving in a way that was not normal for me. 

In other words, I was losing it, very much like my friend on social media.

When I was losing control, something spoke to me within that said, "this is not normal."

I'm very grateful for that still small voice within because once I was aware, I quickly softened my anger and irritability, which was not common for me.

I was lucky to recognize the "not normal-ness" and I was able to change my behaviors, which were coming from my beliefs, which were coming from the thoughts that I kept thinking of not being safe.

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DESTRESS FOR EMERGENCY PERSONNEL

One of the most common signs of stress among the emergency service, besides denial, is unhappiness. There are fire fighters, paramedics, police officers, and EMT's that are truly unhappy.

What is the cause of this unhappiness? It's different for everyone, and in the Emergency Field, it comes and goes in phases. It may be caused by problems at home, problems at work, or it may be caused from a recent critical incident.

If you are unhappy something must be done because life is full of joy. Many emergency personnel enjoy life but there are those times that are just overwhelming and then we get stuck in that rut.

So what can one do? We can learn to destress which really means to create a stress free life. One must evaluate where the stress is coming from and then search for the solution.

One of the things I propose is never ending goal setting. What I mean by this is, pinpoint the problem and then work on the solution. The solution is your goal. If you have money problems then the goal is to solve it. If you have health problems then the goal is to solve it. If you have relationship problems then the goal is to solve it.

Often times we know how to solve our problems and the only reason we don't work towards solving them is because we do not focus on it. In other words, we do not set a goal to focus on it.

Spend time on yourself and set goals to solve your stress and if you need help seek it.

An obstacle in relieving stress in the Emergency Field is many individuals do not, and will not seek help. It has been said, the number one sign of stress in First Responders is denial. 

As heros, we help others, and tend to believe we don't need help because if we do then something is wrong with us.

One must look at the evidence. If you are angry, anxious, and/or depressed for long periods of time or out of proportion to the things happening in your life, it may not be normal for you. It may not be normal for anyone. If it doesn't seem normal, it is a really good indicator you may need help.

My graduate studies were in Marriage, Family, and Child Counseling but I believe in self-help via bibliotherapy more than I believe in therapy. Maybe because I was a first responder for twenty years. 

I'm not saying therapy doesn't work, I'm saying I don't believe in it for me. I've read and studied many spiritual books, including the Bible, and I found more healing and relief that way than talking to a therapist who doesn't have much inclination as to what we may be going through due to special circumstances in the EMS.

The greatest advice I can, or could give anyone suffering from stress is you got to be able to notice you have stress, and you got to be able to focus on the solution.

The next advice is please seek consultation with your Private Medical Doctor, it may be you need medication to help you. I believe in the assistance of medication because I've seen it help many heal emotionally, mentally, and physically.

With the help of your PMD, and focusing on the solution, relief is sure to come.

Examples of solutions are:

For anger, the solution can be peace.

For anxiety, the solution can be calm, confidence.

For depression, the solution can appreciation.

Simple, but not necessarily easy.

These solutions are of course more complex than the phrases provided above but we are habitual beings, and if we practice anger, anxiety, or depression, we can, and will become experts because practiced habits makes things permanent. Therefore, if we intentionally practice the opposite, we can become experts with permanent habits, as well.

The application and practice is how we become great at anything. Just think about art, driving, and sports. At first, we must learn the skills, and after application and practice, if we want to, we can be experts.

I'm a professional because I get paid but, I am an expert because I have a high success rate. 

It takes application, education, and practice to become experts at anything, including calm, confidence, with inner peace, which happens to be the opposite of stress.

I've talked to EMT's, Fire Fighters, Paramedics, Police Officers, and Military Personnel and some understand they are stressed, and some are in great denial. The question is, are you happy? If no, then you may have high levels of stress. If yes, you are probably alright unless people are telling you that you are not. Then the next question is, is your anger, anxiety, depression, irritability, or moodiness out of control?

Just some words of healing to think about, I'm sending out into the Universe, if you need it because a lot of people are buying up the book I wrote on EMS Stress.

To your healing, if you need it!

Take care...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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Stress in the EMS?

Stress in the EMS is what I wanna blog about this day!

Hey, hey, how you doin'?  It's been a while since I have blogged about stress and destressing in the Emergency Field, and since I have been helping a few medics lately, I thought I would get back to blogging, and helping the helpers.

One question that is often posed to me is, "How do you know if you have stress when you work in the EMS?"  Normally individuals ask this because they don't think they have stress and they are concerned about someone  else.  So, whether you wanna know about stress for yourself, or stress relief for someone else, I would love to help you all out.

This is the thing about stress in the EMS...

If you work in the Emergency Field, running 911 calls, and responding in your vehicle with lights, and sirens, you will experience stress, PERIOD!!!  If you are sitting in a calm state, the alarm for a call goes off, you jump up a runnin', you activate an increase in your pulse, blood pressure, and body system, right?  So, if you do that all the day long, everyday you work, you activate physical stress.

If you are running calls, and you have the mood of anger, irritability, moodiness, or anxiety, along with the physical stress, you are experiencing emotional stress as well.  These particular negative emotions tend to mimic the stress response, aka fight or flight response.  It may be at lower levels but, it is still activating a very similar response, and depending on the individual, it may be the actual stress response.

Some signs, and symptoms that are exhibited when we have our daily stress along with the added first responder stress are...

Physical presentations include headaches, neck aches, chest pain, hypertension, tacha cardia, dizziness, fatigue, gastrointestinal problems, nausea, vomiting, sweats, chills, and difficulty breathing.

Emotional manifestations include anxiety, guilt, fear, panic, grief, depression, and apprehension.

Cognitive demonstrations include denial, memory loss, disorientation, hyper-alertness, nightmares, poor concentration, difficulty problem solving, difficulty decision making, intrusive images, and disturbed thoughts.

Behavioral indications include avoidance, blaming, difficulty with speech, decrease or increase in appetite, decrease or increase in sleep, increased alcohol, outbursts, poor hygiene, restlessness, and withdrawal.

If you have any of these signs or symptoms, and they happened to begin during your career, chances are you got some stress my friend.  If you have had any of these signs, and/or symptoms long before your career in the Emergency Field, chances are you got some stress my friend.

People who are stressed out, burned out, or whacked out, before they begin running 911 calls, are much higher risk for severe stress when they enter the Emergency Service, which can turn into crisis, or despair with life.

So, if you answered yes to having stress in the EMS, the greatest thing you, or anyone can do is raise awareness, take steps towards intervention, and educate self for direction.

In my 'EMS Stress Book' you can find basic stress management information, and direction.  Also, in my 'Stress Free' book, you will find a stress test, and solutions for stressful habits.

In my upcoming posts, I will address the most common stressful reactions, and possible remedies, and solutions.

Have a wonderful day my friend!

Elizabeth 

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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is the topic of this blog, this day!

There is a new discussion that appeared in 2013, and that is the new Diagnostic And Statistical Manual-5 (DSM-5) of Mental Disorders, which is used by the American Psychiatric Association, and the American Psychology Association, to diagnose patients.  This diagnosis is accepted as very important for diagnosis, treatment, and insurance purposes.

The DSM-5 was rolled out in May of 2013, and because I believe I see many people in the Emergency Field, as well as in the Military, with PTSD, I want to continue my familiarization.

Nearly four years ago I posted the

DSM-IV-TR CRITERIA FOR PTSD PART I

and 

DSM-IV-TR CRITERIA FOR PTSD PART II

and now I want to provide the new discussion of changes

POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DSM-5 a document from American Psychiatric Publishing.

Take a look and let me know what you think.  I like to provide this very important information on PTSD because it is a vital component of stress.

Happy New Year!!!  2014 is going to be a great year.

Elizabeth

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Six Signs of Stress in an EMT

Signs of stress in an EMT is what I would like to write about this day...

Hey, hey, how are you this wonderful day?  Tomorrow is Friday, but if you are in the Emergency Field that doesn't matter to you now does it?  Most people who work in the Emergency Arena work twenty four hours a day, and ten days a month, or twelve hours a day, three days one week, and four days the next.  Often times when you have a rotating schedule, you do not get holidays or weekends off when you want them.

Stress in the EMS is huge, I know, I worked in the Emergency Medical Field for twenty years, and now I help First Responders with their stress.  I also help Military Personnel with their anxiety and stress. 

My goal in this post is to encourage anyone, literally anyone, to seek help for their stress if you have one of the six signs of stress, as follows.

1. Addiction is reaching for something that we think will make us feel better but usually doesn't, something that we cannot quit, and normally has a very negative impact on our life.

2.  Anger is based on fear of not getting our way.  I know that sounds harsh but think of the last time you were angry.  It was probably a situation that happened one way, and you were angry because you believe it should have happened another way, your way.

3.  Anxiety is an enhanced state of worry about something, usually about the future.

4.  Depression is sadness about our life, and how it should be better because we are focusing on what is wrong, and what we don't have.

5.  Fatigue comes from physical stress, and mental stress.  When we overwork our body, and we have a super negative mind set, we become drained of our energy.

6.  Pessimism is displayed through a negative thought process, which causes stress because it is followed by negative emotions, and then negative actions.

If you have one of the above it is very important to seek help from someone who specializes in the Emergency Field, and has a high success rate.  Why is it important?  It is important because you are important, and if you don't do something about the stressful sign, it will become who you are.  The stressful sign that you experience will become part of your personality, if it is not already.

These are not necessarily Symptoms but they are definitely signs because you may not see them but others can.

Seek help my friend, and you will be able to enjoy you, and others more.

I would love to write solutions but instead I will provide you a copy of my EMS Stress Book for FREE...

This book is free for one day only, December 13, 2013, Friday the thirteenth, how funny is that?

If you are having a hard time financially, with work, with relationships, with sleeping, with your partner, with your anger, with your anxiety, with your addiction, with your depression, with your fatigue, or with your attitude, click the picture and download the EMS Stress Book for free.

If you want to feel happiness, joy, and laughter, then seek help, or start with the EMS Stress Book.

Have a great day, weekend, and holiday.

Merry Christmas...

Elizabeth

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EMS Stress And Fatigue

EMS stress and fatigue is the topic of today.

Hello my friend.  Hope you are well, and ready to enjoy your Summer, fo sho.

I gotta challenge for you!  So read on, and take the challenge, if you are up to it!

A major symptom of stress in the Emergency Field among EMT's, Firefighters, Paramedics, and Police Officers is fatigue.  This type of stress is developed primarily because of long, busy hours, and physical strain on the body due to these hours.

When we have physical stress it can easily result in fatigue.

How are you feeling?  Are you feeling full of energy or extremely fatigued?

If you are full of energy; Awesome!  If you are constantly fatigued, I would like to suggest a few remedies, and one challenge, if you are so willing to resolve this issue.

The opposite of fatigue is energy, right?  So in order to eliminate fatigue one must create energy, and if one is fatigued often, one can create habits to his or her best ability to sustain constant energy.

Okay, we know we are gonna be tired from long and busy shifts; that's a given.  Some things that increase the being tired factor are eating crap, being out of shape, and having a very negative attitude.

Therefore, to increase energy, the opposite of fatigue, we can eat healthy nutritious foods that provide vitamins, and minerals.  In addition, we can exercise vigorously often, and create a positive attitude, which happens to make us feel good, and when we feel good, we create energy.

Basic Stress Management my friend.

We know all of this, don't we?  Then why am I blogging about it?  I am blogging about it because it is my hope for you, if you are fatigued, that you consider your unhealthy habits.  It is also my hope that you consider what your habits are telling you.

What are your unhealthy habits telling you?  And...what are your unhealthy habits going to provide for the future of your well being as you age?

Just some things to think about to destress if you are in the Emergency Field.

So here is the challenge...

Pick one thing, just one habit, that is draining your energy and turn it around.  What I am talking about is start to exercise if you do not, or eliminate fast food if you eat it all the time, or eat better foods if you eat like poo poo, or create a positive attitude if you got a negative one.

That's it!  That is the challenge.  Take one thing, one weakness, within your habits that is draining your fatigue and turn it around.  If you are brave enough, when you conquer that unhealthy habit, start on another one, and change that one too.

YOU CAN DO THIS!

YOU ARE AMAZING!

YOU ARE BRILLIANT!

YOU ARE COURAGEOUS!

MAKE WEAK THINGS STRONG!

I know, I know, I am always talking about making weak things strong.  Making weak things strong is how we destress.  

If you have read my book, EMS STRESS, the only thing I really discuss is destressing yourself by making weak things strong.

Even in my last post, EMS Stress Relief Techniques, I discuss making weak things strong so that we can decrease stress and increase success.

That's all I got for EMS stress and fatigue.

Have a great weekend...



Elizabeth



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EMS Stress Relief Techniques

Seven EMS Stress Relief Techniques is what I got for you today.

Hello there!  I got a pithy post for you...

Here are Seven of the best EMS Stress Reduction Tips for Basic Stress Management.


1.  Eat Right & Hydrate
It takes energy to handle stress; eating right and hydrating well increases our levels of energy unlike eating processed foods and drinking tons of caffeine.  Processed foods puts us in nap mode and caffeine dehydrates us.  Fatigue is a symptom of dehydration.


2.  Exercise Vigorously
When we are stressed we feel like poo poo, and when we exercise vigorously we can create feel good neurotransmitters, which will make us feel fantastico.


3.  Get Plenty of Sleep
When we do not get essential hours of sleep, we can be super duper cranky, and cranky gets not one person a pleasant day, especially those around us.  Happiness is crucial for stress relief.  Many EMS Personnel work 24-hour shifts, and that makes it a little difficult to get good sleep.  Therefore, it is good to practice regular sleeping hours while off duty.  Regular sleep will decrease the irritability factor.


4.  Do Things You Love
Plan to do things you love as often as your schedule permits, and this will definitely reduce the stress levels.  Doing things we love often, when healthy, also increases the happiness factor, which relieves stress.


5.  Do Things with People You Love
Plan to do things you love with people you love, and this will double the stress reduction, double the happiness factor, and you will feel destressed for sure.


6.  Practice Deep Relaxation
When a person works in the Emergency Field he or she can have heightened stress because the adrenaline is provoked quite frequently just through responding with lights and sirens in traffic.  In addition, if there is an intense situation on scene, the adrenal glands are engaged even more.  The Emergency Responder can be on stress mode regularly therefore, it is a good practice to develop the art of relaxing through formal intentional deep relaxation.


7.  Know That You Can Handle Anything
Besides the abnormal stressful situations within the EMS, there are normal stressers at home like financial difficulties, health problems, and/or relationship issues.  One thing that can increase stress is worry, and when we worry we always play the absolute worst scenario out in our mind.  When we play the worst scenario possible, we are showing our faith for the worst outcome.  Knowing, without a doubt that no matter what happens, we can handle anything helps us handle stress.  In addition, we can overcome any fear by writing down the best possible outcome and set up steps to move towards that like a goal.  By doing this, we will build faith in our self, and easily believe we can handle anything.

There you have it!  My pithy post on EMS Stress Relief Techniques.

Just some things that you may want to think about, if you believe you have serious stress and you are in the Emergency Field. 


Have a great day...



Elizabeth



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Serious Stress In The EMS

Serious Stress in the EMS is what I wanna discuss today.

Serious Stress can easily be defined as the kind of stress that truly affects your state of happiness.  What causes the stress, in my opinion, might not be as important as what sustains it.

Stress is strain.  So, serious stress is a constant strain that affects the happiness of the being. 

The most common kinds of stress in the EMS, that I have seen, are usually sustained by addiction, anger, anxiety, depression, debt, and withdrawal.

All of these mentioned are not necessarily what has caused the stress, but they certainly can be blamed for sustaining a stressful life style.

Please let me explain.

When we feel unhappy, underpressure, or full of stress, it is very natural to reach for something that makes us feel better, and often times we reach for things that are not good for us.  When we reach for things that are not good for us, too often, we sustain a lifestyle full of stress.

Addiction to unhealthy things like alcohol, cigarettes, drama, drugs, negative emotions, and unhealthy foods develop stress.

How do these addictions design stress?  They establish stress because they cause mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual strain.

How are drama and negative emotions addictions?  Well, Freud stated that addictions are long-term self-harming behavior therefore, drama and negative emotions are, or can be, long-term self-harming behaviors.  I would like to add a little of my opinion to Freud's definition, and I would add that addictions are things that we 'believe' we cannot quit. 

I do believe, with all my heart and soul, that addictions are things that we 'believe' we cannot quit. 

We can be addicted to people, places, and things; good or bad for us.  We can be addicted to emotions; good or bad for us.  We can be addicted to anything; good or bad for us.

If we are guided by my definition of addiction then all addictions wouldn't be negative.

Anywho... a little tangent there.

What I am trying to say here is that serious stress in the EMS is sustained by things we reach for to make us feel better, and if we are reaching for things that are unhealthy for us, we can certainly destress our lives by replacing them with healthier things.  

Consider destressing yourself by replacing unhealthy addictions with healthier ones like exercise, eating right, and getting sleep the exact same hours every night (the days you are off anyway). 

Consider destressing yourself by eliminating your anger, anxiety, or depression (if you have it) with happiness by doing things you love and consciously practicing the opposite emotion.  The opposite of anger is peace, the opposite of anxiety is calm, and the opposite of depression is happiness.  I believe with all my heart and soul that we can eliminate any negative emotion with practicing the opposite.  How do I know?  I have help thousands of people do it.

Consider destressing yourself by removing your debt (if you have it), and create abundance, and prosperity.

Finally, consider destressing yourself by overcoming withdrawal from the world.  So many Medics, Firefighters, and Police Officers tend to withdrawal from others.  They tend to spend their days alone, or they tend to spend their days in the house, believe it or not.  If this is something you do, please consider getting yourself out to do things you enjoy.  If you cannot get yourself to leave the house to do things you enjoy, you may want to see your doctor about depression.

Just some things that you may want to think about, if you believe you have serious stress and you are in the Emergency Field.

Have a great day...

Elizabeth

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WHAT'S YOUR PURPOSE?

Hey there!  ;0)

This week we had a post about De-Stressing Yourself With A Hobby, and my last post, I talked about My Passion and My Purpose. 

 Now, I pose the question, "What's your purpose?"

Do you know what your purpose in life is?  If you do, are you living it?

The reason I pose these questions is because I have had SEVERAL conversations about purpose lately.

The other day, I had the wonderful opportunity to speak to a young college student and she explained that she was feeling empty and lost.  She wanted help finding herself, she didn't know how to do it, and she desperately wanted help.  OH MY GOSH!!!  Do you see how brilliant that is?  It's brilliant because she is where many people get, usually when they are older.

Deep down inside she wanted to know her purpose in life.  She knew that there was something missing.  Do you feel like that? 

How grateful I was to speak to her and how grateful I was to help her know that her soul was asking for direction to her purpose.  After we discussed that very thing, she got it.  How lucky she is to get something like that as such an early age.

Do you feel empty?  Do you feel lost?  Do you feel like you want to find yourself?

If the answer is yes to these questions, it is my humble opinion that you are looking for your purpose, or you know what it is and want to live it.

The conversation of 'my purpose' has been very commonplace with others and me for a long time but much more so lately, especially the last week.

So, if it is your desire to find and live your purpose, here is some questions you can ask yourself.

What would you do everyday if time and money were not an issue?

If you could be anybody, who would you be?  Why would you be them?  What is it about their life that is so appealing to you?

What are you naturally good at that you would love to do anytime if you could?

What would you love to learn to do?

Just some things to think about because I believe, with all my heart and soul, that if you find and live your purpose you will truly live a destressed life.  If you live your passion and purpose, you will feel whole, and happy.  If you live your passion and purpose, you will not drift through life feeling empty or lost.

If you want more ways to find your purpose, Google it.  Google, "what is my purpose?"

And...

Turn to Heavenly Father in prayer.  He loves you and promises to help you find it.

"And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.  For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.   If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?" ~Luke 11:9-11

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!!! ;0)

Have a great week my friend!

Have fun!  Be playful!

Love you lots and lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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PASSION AND PURPOSE!

Hello there.  How are you doing this week so far?  Great, I hope!

Did you happen to read the guest post, De-stress Yourself With A Hobby, by Lori Hutchinson from Masters in Teaching?  If you didn't, you might want to read it.  She talks about doing what makes you happy, how it gives you peace, and how it is a factor in stress management.

I love, love, love her article because I know, without a doubt, that living with happiness and peace is the opposite of stress, it is destressing yourself.

What I also know, without a doubt, is that if you find out what your purpose and passions are, you will live a magnificent life full of happiness, energy, vitality, and wholeness.

When I was very young, I knew that I loved, loved, loved to help people.  That is my purpose and passion.  As I got older, my helping people evolved.  When I was younger, I always helped the underdog at school, the one who was always picked on.  Because I had bigger brothers, no one would mess with me, and I took advantage of that by helping the person who got bullied. 

As I worked as an EMT, I noticed that people in the Emergency Field were seriously unhappy, and unnecessarily angry.  Many Fire Fighters, Nurses, Paramedics, Police Officers, and EMT's had horrible ways of handling their stress with anger, anxiety, and pure unkindness for others.  This was so heart breaking because their behavior, to the normal person, was extremely extraordinarily abnormal but they couldn't see it.

When I first started to help the Emergency Personnel with crisis, it was a miracle.  It was a miracle because they could find happiness amongst all of that crazy anger.  That is how my passion and purpose evolved from helping the underdog to helping the hero go from crisis to calm. 

Although I still get to help the hero, I also have the opportunity everyday to help the Father, Mother, Child, or Grandparent destress.  I have the opportunity to help the teenager, or adult destress.  My passion is destressing people, and my purpose is to destress the world ;0) (Just watch me now)!

As I live my passion and purpose, I see happiness all around, I feel energy for life everyday, and I have pure vitality for life.  Sure, I have my stress, everybody does, but as we find what we love to do, and live it, we become less stressed.

What I am trying to add to Lori's article is, find out what you love to do, and if you already know what it is, start to participate in it.  If you do that, I promise you that you will destress yourself.

What do you love to do?

What would you do everyday, if you could?

Do you know?  If you do, are you doing it?

Just some things you can think about as you destress yourself.

"For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love, serve one another." ~Galatians 5:13

Whatever your purpose, whatever your passions, they are our gifts from God, and they are there so that we may use them to serve one another, not just ourselves. 

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!!!

Have a super duper rest of the week!!!

Have fun!  Be playful!

Love you lots and lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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ABUNDANCE

THE ABC'S OF ABUNDANCE ;0)

Hello there!  How is your week so far?  Mine was excellent!  Life is great!  Everyday is a weekend to me.  I know, that probably sounds really arrogant but, if you could, wouldn't you make everyday a weekend?

If you love love, the way I love love, and if you found and lived your passion and purpose, everyday would be a weekend for you too.  No lie!

Moving on ;0)

Just in case you missed my last three posts, I wanted to give you the links because they are the ABC's of abundance.

Attitude

Believing

Courage

A positive attitude gives us peace, which is the opposite of stress and it promotes greater energy for the individual.  It takes energy to relieve stress and energy increases our self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth, which will increase our feelings of abundance.

When we believe in ourselves we eliminate doubt, fear, and worry, which are stress inducers.  Believing in ourselves allows us unlimited possibilities and a more abundant life.

When we have courage we can face our challenges and step out of our comfort zone.  Challenges and stepping out of our comfort zone makes us or breaks us, and if we have courage, we can, and will, create an abundant life.

Here is to your Abundant Life...  Today!  Focus on;

A positive attitude.

Believing in yourself.

Having courage.

And if you are brave enough, focus on these attributes for the next thirty, or more, days.

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Have fun!  Be playful!

Love you lots ;0)

Elizabeth

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COURAGE!

Hey there!  Hi there!  Hope you had a great weekend.

Did you know that my title is, 'Stress Specialist' or 'Destress Yourself Expert', but what I really would like my title to be is, 'Courage Expert/Specialist' because I love, love, love to encourage people.  When I spend time encouraging people, the only thing I am doing is persuading them to be courageous.

When we have challenges, and we become stressed, we have doubt, fear, and worry.  When we have doubt, fear, and worry, we start to think about the worst possible thing that could happen, and then we start to think about the steps we will have to take as we move towards what we think is the worst. 

If we face our challenges with courage, instead of thinking about the worst thing that could happen, we shift our thoughts to the best possible outcome, and then make decisions and move towards what we think is, and would be, the best results.  That is courage, my friend.

"Courage becomes a worthwhile and meaningful virtue when it is regarded not so much as a willingness to die manfully but as a determination to live decently.

Said the American essayist and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide on, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”

There will be times when you will be frightened and discouraged. You may feel that you are defeated. The odds of obtaining victory may appear overwhelming. At times you may feel like David trying to fight Goliath. But remember—David did win!

Courage is required to make an initial thrust toward one’s coveted goal, but even greater courage is called for when one stumbles and must make a second effort to achieve.

Have the determination to make the effort, the single-mindedness to work toward a worthy goal, and the courage not only to face the challenges that inevitably come but also to make a second effort, should such be required. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, “I’ll try again tomorrow.”  ~Taken from Thomas S. Monson's message, Living the Abundant Life

Have courage my friend!  When the challenge comes, remind yourself, "Courage!"  When you are required to step outside of your comfort zone to move ahead, and away from your stress, say it again, "Courage!"

"Arise; for this matter belongeth unto thee: we also will be with thee: be of good courage, and do it." ~Ezra 10:4

DO IT!

"Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord." ~Palm 27:14

"Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the Lord." ~Psalms 31:24

More things to think about so you can destress yourself.

Have a super duper week!!!

Have fun!  Be playful

Love you lots ;0)

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

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