DESTRESS YOUR ANGER ;)

Hello there!  How are you this beautiful Monday?  Dang!  I feel so lucky to live in Cali.  We have beautiful blue skies and the temp is a lovely 62 deez greez.  A lil cool for us Californians.

Okay, enough of the bragging, huh?

Today, I wanna talk about destressing your anger. 

Anger is a very stressful habit.  Yuppers, it's a habit.  I would even go as far as to say that it is an addiction, a very contagious addiction.  What I mean by addiction is that it is something that is a negative influence and you cannot quit it.  What I mean by contagious addiction is that an angry environment, like a work place, can create and increase other peoples anger.  For example, a fire house, or an emergency room, or just being in an ambulance with an angry person.  Also, a corporate or office environment can generate anger in individuals.

There are a whole lotta people out there who are very angry.  Sometimes they don't even know they are angry.  Other times they think anger is okay.  But the worst of them all is they think anger is necessary.

ANGER IS UNNECESSARY!  AND GOING OFF IS NOT OKAY! 

Just in case you didn't know, it is not okay to go off on someone when you loose your temper.  Actually, it's not okay to go off on anyone.  It's quite ridiculous actually.  Have you ever seen someone loose it over something as if their life was threatened?  That is an illusion of anger.   

Not only is anger unnecessary, it is bad for you.

Any negative emotion creates unhealthy shifts in your body and releases bad hormones.  That is why people get sick.

BUT!  Anger just doesn't hurt you, it hurts the people around you and guess what?  If you are an angry one, people probably don't want to be around you.

So, what do you do if you are an angry one?  How do you destress yourself from anger?

I have no idea!  Just kidding.

Counting to ten is a good one, just kidding.

But seriously!

Like any addiction, you have to know that it is a problem, know that you can quit it, and then replace it with a successful practice.

Sounds pretty simple, but not easy.

Once upon a time, a long long time ago, I worked on an ambulance with a very very angry person.  He was so angry that it radiated to me and I started to get angry.  This is way before I started researching and writing about stress relief. 

Thank goodness I didn't work with this guy for long.  Any who, looking back I recognized that I was angry, a lot, and for no reason.  After I started to notice this, I remember when I would get angry, I would ask myself, "why am I so angry?"  Right in the middle of the anger and then I would talk myself out of the anger.  I would say, "you are getting angry for no reason, Elizabeth."  After doing that for a while, every time I got angry, the anger went away.  Sure, I still got angry, sometimes, but not the kind that was ridiculous, lol.

If you have an anger problem know two things, know that it is not okay and know that you can eliminate it.

Say to yourself, "Anger is not okay and I don't get angry."  I know, it sounds silly, but it will work.

It's just a reminder, to remind you, that it's not okay and you don't get angry anymore.

There's more!

When you are angry, see if you can just observe the anger, right when you are in the middle of it.  Just observe it, be the observer, and don't judge it or label it or beat yourself up for it.

Then you can do what I did and talk yourself out of it, or you can do something even funnier.  You can start to sing a song, a funny song, like a rap or something.  This will work, I promise, it will make you laugh and you will eliminate the stressful habit of anger and replace it with the successful practice of laughter.

You gotta love it!  You gotta love the playfulness in that, don't you?

Well, have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Love ya...

Elizabeth

EMAIL RESPONSES TO, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

Holey Moley Guacamole Avocado Sauce. 

I have received a ton of emails in response to the last post, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

I have received emails regarding job loss, unable to get a job, loosing a home, loosing a loved one, having a hard time with the boss, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, anger towards a spouse, anger towards an ex-spouse, problems with a child, having a hard time with weight control, and...even...sexual frustration.

As I read these emails, I was going to answer them each individually but, the main theme was that these individuals disagreed with me.  They either disagreed with me on that they cannot control their thoughts, they do not have a choice in their thinking, they do not think their stress comes from their thoughts, or that they don't need to change their thoughts.

So, basically, I have been disagreed with on each one of the points I made last post.

What it all boils down to is this, if you do not or cannot believe or wrap your mind around the concept that you are the boss of you, that you are the only thinker of your thoughts, or that you have a choice to choose the way you think, then you will have to live in the state that you are living until you do.

I don't know what else to say.  The thing is, the reason I am not a therapist, or a counselor anymore is because I cannot help people who do not want to be helped, which is the majority of people who are in therapy. 

I am not knocking therapy, it has helped so many people.  What I am saying is, that I help people who want help.  I help people who are willing to open their mind and let new ideas in.

This is education, not therapy, and so if you want to learn more about stress, you can learn it here. 

Stress is NOT caused by your situation or the people you are upset with.  Stress is caused by your thought process about what is happening to you. 

Yes, stress is a part of life and I don't know anyone who lives stress free, not even me lol, but you can reduce any stress you have by changing habitual stressful reactions, which begins with your thought process.

It is not my intention to be unkind, I am trying to be a loving confronter.  If you know me now, you know that I have nothing but love for you or anyone I meet.  I love you!  I love people!  I have nothing but love in my heart.

Please, if you want help, it has to start with you.  With you choosing to open your mind to a new way of thinking.  Listen to your destress yourself specialist, and I say that with a wink and a smile.  I have helped and help thousands of people, all over the world, and I know I can help you.

Give yourself a chance, check out my audio on HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF, it will change your life.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

ps  thanks for the emails, I LOVE IT!!!

HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?

Hey there!  How you doin?  Hope you are having a great week so far. 

You know, the number one question that is asked of me is, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

What a fully loaded question.  The answer?!?

The number one way to destress yourself, no matter what you are going through,  is to change your way of thinking.  Better yet, change your way of knowing.

First, you have to know that you are the only thinker of your thoughts and therefore, you, and only you, are in charge of your thoughts.

Second, you have to know that you have a choice, you can think thoughts of faith, or you can think thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry.

Third, you have to know you can rid yourself of addictive, stressful, behavior. 

Fourth, you have to know you can replace addictive, stressful behavior with successful practices.

This is so simple to see and know but it is not necessarily easy.

Did you know that many people allow their minds to float on auto pilot, with doubt, fear, and worry about the future and anger, frustration, and guilt about the past?

What if you chose to learn to be here, right here, right now.  Like in the book, The Power of Now, it teaches you how to be fully present, to enjoy your present moment and not live in the past or future.  What problem do you have right now?  This very moment?  You don't really, do you?  Maybe you have problems you think about and anticipate in the future, but you don't really have anything but this moment, what you are doing now, or the person you are with. 

You are the thinker of your thoughts.  Choose to enjoy this very moment.

Did you know people worry about the worst thing that could happen rather than anticipating the best thing that could happen?  That is the addictive, stressful behavior I am talking about.  What is an addiction?  My definition of an addiction is something that you cannot stop that is affecting you negatively.  Like, drama in a relationship, getting offended easily and all the time, not liking others "just because", worrying about the future, blaming others for your failures, letting your thoughts and emotions run on auto pilot, focusing on what is wrong with your life, focusing on what you don't have, and being way too serious.  Need I go on?

Sound familiar?

And stressful behavior is the thoughts and behavior we inflict upon ourselves that cause stress.  Stress is not getting in a car crash, it is caused by what we think about after we crash.  Stress is not loosing your job or home, it is caused by what we think and do about it during and after we loose it.

So, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

KNOW THAT YOU, AND ONLY YOU, ARE IN CHARGE OF AND CAN CHOOSE YOUR THOUGHTS.

KNOW THAT YOU HAVE A CHOICE, YOU CAN CHOOSE FAITH IN OTHERS AND YOURSELF OVER DOUBT, FEAR, AND WORRY.

KNOW THAT YOU CAN RECOGNIZE AND RID YOURSELF OF ADDICTIVE AND STRESSFUL BEHAVIOR.

AND FINALLY, KNOW THAT YOU CAN REPLACE THAT ADDICTIVE AND STRESSFUL BEHAVIOR WITH SUCCESSFUL PRACTICES WHICH IS JUST THE OPPOSITE OF THAT BEHAVIOR.

YOU CAN DO IT!!!  YOU GOT THE POWER!!!  YOU CAN BE, DO, HAVE ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR HEART ON!

Sounds so simple, doesn't it?  But it is not necessarily easy.

If you need help to destress yourself try my audio, you will be glad you did.  It will change your life, I promise you.

Have a great week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

EMS STRESS AND THE POWER OF NOW!!!

Hey there.  How's it going?  How's life?  Is it good?  Or is it great?  I truly hope that it is absolutely, positively great for you!!!

Unfortunately, chances are, if you are reading this blog, life may not be great for you. 

EMS Stress is very powerful and can cause a lot of emotional distress as well as physical fatigue and illnesses.

I know this because there isn't a day that goes by that I do not talk to someone in the Emergency field who has some kind of emotional distress or illness. 

The most common emotional distress I see is anger, anxiety, depression, guilt, irritability (one of the biggest), and, believe it or not, insecurity.

The most common physical illnesses I see are back aches, dizziness, fatigue, gastrointestinal problems (one of the biggest), headaches, heart palpitations, hypertension, irregular heart rate, and neck aches.

If you are experiencing stress, which you probably are if you are reading this blog, one of the greatest things you can do is learn how to quiet your mind and enjoy your moments.

Recently, I read the book THE POWER OF NOW,  and it truly helped me enhance my ability to quiet my mind and increase the joy in my moments. 

People who are in the Emergency Field experience things that make us question what life is all about.  We experience things that are not normal to the average person.  Death, dying, destruction, and being responsible for other people's lives, literally, can truly eff with your mind.

The mind is so cunning that when we experience things that are out of the ordinary, it attempts to protect us, when actually it can hurt us.  When the mind is under a lot of stress it races, and although we don't notice the thoughts because they are fleeting, they can be flashbacks or fear created by a past event or anticipated ones.

One of the best ways to notice these fleeting thoughts that are racing through your mind is through meditation, which will quiet the mind. 

THE POWER OF NOW, is a great book that can also help you with the process of quieting your mind.  This may sound silly or may not make sense to you, but I know that this does help.  I have seen it happen with individuals, who are often in a crisis, make complete changes in their lives, for the better of course, after learning to quiet their mind.

Many people are very resistant to meditation, which is the greatest skill a person can have, so books are a healthy alternative.

Click on the picture of the book above and purchase it from Amazon, they have excellent prices.

There are so many people in the Emergency Field that speak their stress in their conversations and they don't even know it.  They talk about a call they had, over and over again, or they talk about how things don't affect them and yet their life is in complete disarray.  Believe me, if you are repeating a call you had, over and over again, or your life is in complete disarray, emotionally, mentally, or physically, you have enormous amounts of stress which is usually caused by or causing a racing mind.

But please, don't believe me, try it for yourself.  Try learning to quiet your mind and be in the now, which means to NOT be in the future or the past with your mind and just watch how you become more focused with extreme joy in your life and watch how you make explosive jumps in your personal and professional life.

Try it, and see, I dare you.

Have a fantabulous week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

THE POWER OF NOW!

Hey everybody!!!  How's life?  Life is very very SCHWEET!!!

I really meant to write another post before I put another book up for the Bibliotherapy Series but I found a book I absolutely love, love, love. 

Keep up with me now!  I can't help it!  I wish there was a job that I could get paid for reading.  I love to read.

Anywho...

My latest and greatest pick is 'THE POWER OF NOW' by Eckhart Tolle. 

I have only read two chapters but this book has me hooked.  I can't put it down, but I gotta, because I have other things I gotta do, you know what I mean?

So far, this book is talking about the power of being in the space of non thinking.  If you meditate, you know what I mean.  Mr. Tolle has explained where he has been, deep in depression and anxiety, and where he is now, in the Now.

He has explained how the NOW gives you joy and peace.  This is what Destressing Yourself is all about.  I believe this with all my heart. 

In chapter two, he is talking about fear and anger.  Ewww, ewww, ewww, this is good.

You gotta read this one with me.  Click on the image to get the book or go to your local book store.

If you have read it, comment below, and share your feelings.

Have a great day, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth